The throwaway couples expression I seem to see so widely used on Facebook and other social media platforms is: ‘He/she/they (pick the appropriate) are my whole world’. Stone me if I’m wrong- but particularly used so often it appears, by insecure, dull and uninspired people; those who seem unable to post anything that has more than four or five words in it? Usually with some dodgy picture that makes one of them look like an errant Parent and other like the oversized buffoon Child. Surely these statements of adoration only get 👍 and ❤ from other similarly challenged people? It irks me no end. All I ever what to respond with is 🖕  Am I uncharitable? Am I too harsh? Am I too cynical? Maybe I’m just playing 😈 ‘s advocate? Maybe I am jealous? 🤢

I don’t think so, but I really can’t imagine saying that specific line to anyone and keeping a straight face. In reality this banal and rather flat statement cannot be true. Surely no one person can ever survive or flourish with only one other human beside them.  We are too intricate and dependent on so many other people that we interact with and ‘touch’ every day, for our emotional and physical well-being. And indeed, we will all survive if that particular special person should (for one reason or another) no longer be in our world or in fact turns out not to be ‘my whole world’ after all. That is our nature.

My perception of it all, I’d rather think of us as individuals comprised of many pieces. When we find someone we think we connect with and love, our various pieces come together, much like a jigsaw puzzle. We spend time and effort combining these different pieces together, to make a perfect picture of the two separate people as a ‘couple.’

Often, from a distance the pieces seem to fit and make a lovely and complete canvas. But when you come nearer to some of these ‘pictures’ and look just a little bit closer; there are some big holes where pieces are missing and others that just don’t quite fit at all. This underlying the fact that maybe, despite all our efforts and striving to become part of the perfect union, the perfect scene, it’s never going to be just quite right?

We are all inherently capable of seeing where these holes are if we are honest with ourselves. When we do acknowledge them, ever so quietly to ourselves, many tend to then blindly lead on with this nauseating and totally uninspired declaration.  Scooting over and blocking out the fact that the puzzle of ‘us’ just doesn’t fit the way we thought or want. But hoping that the other person won’t notice, if I distract them long enough, by telling them and the whole world while I’m at it, that….

‘…You (Tag the appropriate person) are my whole world.’  

If I were to be very cynical and maybe slightly full of myself and even deliberately controversial (As if? What me?), most of the people I’ve ever known, invariably when they’ve reached this realisation that their own couple image is ‘off’- seem to have already started work somewhere else on another jigsaw picture with someone else, before dismantling the current one first and dropping it off at the Charity shop with the other shit they don’t want anymore. Raising the obvious question- ‘while I was busy being your whole world, when were you ‘off planet’ making another person your whole new world?’ Just in case? Am I wrong?

So, rather than me saying or posting glibly ‘You are my whole world,’  I am happy to say – since you and I got together, our jigsaw picture has the least amount of holes and pieces cobbled together in a desperate attempt to make it all fit comfortably. It is the best. Some people don’t understand that picture. Some have definitely tried to obscure and obliterate that picture. What we have created together is the closest to perfect I’ve had the deep pleasure of so far and that pleases me no end. It certainly makes me feel that I want you to stay with me and me with you, so I can love you everyday all the more preciously.